What is squirting? It’s about the strong expulsion of a not insignificant amount of liquid (transparent and odorless) through the urethra, fruit of the pleasure obtained during sex. And we say “strong” because that’s how it is, a waterfall, a stream… nothing like “a little bit of liquid”. So much so that many of the women who experience it question, or have questioned, if they have peed.
Not to be confused with female ejaculationsince it has a rather viscous texture, and in a much smaller quantity, so much so that most women are not aware of the expulsion of this substanceunlike what happens with the squirt, which leaves no room for doubt… The new sexual must to which it seems that all women should aspire, the most recent object of desire, never better said, of many men (among other things thanks to porn) is the squirting. But this turning into a waterfall for pleasure, in addition to fascination, generates a lot of doubts: its composition (is it urine?), if it is something voluntary or involuntary, if it is within everyone’s reach or limited by anatomy, are some of them. we tell you what science says and how she experiences it, what she feels and how she achieves it, a girl who regularly experiences it. Squirting has been almost totally unknown, at least on a popular level, until very recently… like almost everything related to female sexuality and our pleasure, everything must be said. Much of the popularity of squirting is due to the porn industry, in which it has earned a permanent position as one of the most sought after categories by users and consumers.
What is it really: is it pee?
One of the big doubts that this squirt generates is its composition, is it urine? One of the best-known studies in this regard, carried out in France in 2015, concluded that, indeed, it is, for the most part, urine, although it also contains a small part of prostatic fluid (from Skene’s glands). However, we should not confuse it with coital incontinence, a disorder that causes women to urinate during intercourse. Despite the emphatic conclusions, it is important to highlight that the study was carried out with only seven women, so that methodologically not very consistent and, therefore, the results should not be generalized.
In first person
The truth is that it is a phenomenon that, despite what many believe, does not occur exclusively in the field of adult cinema: Rebeca, 34, tells us about her experience.
What do you feel when it happens to you?
I feel a sense of liberation that spreads from the inside out. My pulse races and my heart beats very fast, sometimes I even hyperventilate. When I have the sensation, I speed up the rhythm of the posture I am performing, I go faster.
Does it happen every time you have sex (including when you masturbate) or just sometimes?
Not always, although lately more often. It happens to me with penetration, especially in the horsewoman position, although I also have the sensation (without ejaculating) sometimes with the doggy style position. Not masturbating, because I usually only stimulate my clitoris without inserting anything.
Can you control it?
Not really, although I think it is “inhibited” if you mistake the sensation for urination. It has ever happened to me that when I felt the sensation I have become alert, and in the end it has been cut off, or it has not been as abundant as other times. The mind plays a fundamental role.
Can you have it at will?
No, it usually happens when I am focusing on enjoying myself, without thinking about what is happening to me (without rationalizing), letting myself be carried away by sensations. As an intrusive thought is introduced (such as: I’m going to pee or I don’t know how I feel) it usually disappears.
Does it always happen with an orgasm or does it sometimes happen without it?
I can’t tell you 100%. From my experience, it usually happens with orgasm.
What do your partners tell you?
They usually like it, it’s not a problem. Some want it to happen to you always, and that becomes overwhelming, because it seems that for them it is like a “triumph” and they want to achieve it at all costs. It usually surprises them, and surprises them too. But the answer is usually positive.
Do you like it or would you rather it didn’t happen to you?
I like it, but the thing about staining the bed sometimes worries me a bit. Sometimes when it happens to me, I still can’t believe I’ve ejaculated and check to see if it’s urine. But it doesn’t smell like one, and besides, I’ve been to the bathroom most of the time before, so I doubt it’s that. I think that since there is not much information about it, you feel happy, but at the same time confused.
Orgasms, when it happens to you, are they more intense?
They feel somewhat different than when I directly stimulate my clitoris. They are outwards, like explosives, more than the whole body, not so localized in the genital area, you don’t feel the contractions as intense. The body tenses up, but not as much as when you are receiving clitoral stimulation only. I feel like a projection sensation, of wanting to push, instead of contracting and tensing. I don’t know if I’m explaining myself… it’s hard to put into words.
Can we all…?
In porn it is possible to fake it, for example peeing, or inserting water into the vagina just before “the scene” (remember that porn is not reality, that is, there are cameras, scenes, cuts, tricks…). However, actresses, such as Cytherea, who is known as “The queen of squirt” in porn, in an interview with The Daily Dot stated that she did not always experience squirting when she had sex, but that when she did, the liquid and the pleasure were absolutely real. The squirting It has been associated with extreme pleasure, the height of pleasure, so that many women have felt pressure, explicit or not, to achieve it. If you search the Internet you will find a thousand and one articles about how to obtain it but… can you really get it on demand?
Despite the fact that there is still no common agreement on the matter, the current consensus is that no, not all of us can have it since it requires a structure and an anatomy that not all of us have the same development: In the squirt, the G-spot comes into play ( that more than a point is an area, and that not all women have developed in the same way) and Skene’s glands. These glands are similar, so that we understand each other, to the male prostate, and they are different in each woman, so that not all of us produce the same amount of prostatic fluid. A 1994 study found that only 6% of the participants had ever experienced this squirt.
However, Samuel Salama, author of one of the studies cited above, states that “all women can experience it… if our partners know how to do it.”
Should we all…?
Part of its success as a pornographic object of consumption, and its conversion into a sexual holy grail, the treasure at the end of the rainbow, is that makes visible what until now was, in quotes, in many quotes, invisible: female pleasure in general, and the orgasm of women in particular.
Female sexuality has historically been made invisible: pleasure, anatomy, needs, desires… The prevailing model, the yardstick, has always been phallocratic, masculine, which is why something so difficult to see, especially in the eyes of a man, and of a science too masculine, such as feminine pleasure, was even more hidden. In this masculine and coitocentric model, penetration and orgasm have become standards of good sex, of “real” sex. And what better than being able to assert that this goal has been achieved than with something explicit, physical, measurable, visible, tangible… and wet, like male ejaculation? That is why so many fall in love with squirting: because it shows, because it resembles what they know, because it gives certainty. That said, everything that is looking for pleasure, your pleasure, is welcome, but without pressure, without imperatives… Squirting is not the supreme form of pleasure, it is not the only and definitive one, it is one of the forms, as well that nothing of must have, must arrive… nothing of have to in general, it would be missing more!
If you want to try…
The first thing I strongly recommend, moreover, is that you take it easy, without pressure, because then instead of being a pleasurable sexual activity you are going to turn it into a task, and that is very unerotic. The goal must be your pleasure, not soak the bed. The squirt is reached, if your anatomy allows it, by stimulating what is popularly known as the G-Spot, that is, the area that is located on the anterior wall of the vagina (that is, the one that is further outwards, pointing, let’s say, at your mound of venus, to give you an idea). You can stimulate it with a specific G-spot vibrator or with your fingers, pointing, as I said, “outwards”. If you lie on your back, you can press with your other hand just above your mound of venus, so that you will achieve more pleasure with the fingers that you have inserted. Performing what are known as Kegel exercises or tightening and relaxing the thighs and pelvic area at the same time can also help enhance pleasure.
And what else gives…
What does it matter what it is made of, what does it matter if it is all pee or if it is also prostatic fluid, what does it matter if you have it or not… do you enjoy sex? Well, that’s it. If you become liquid with each orgasm or if you are rather dry, the important thing is that you enjoy yourself, that you let yourself go and that you do not make the pressure your own, because that will only make your pleasure pack up and never come back. If you have never experienced it and want to undertake your search, go ahead, but do so on the assumption that the path must be pleasant (and fun), and that the goal, the real one, is your pleasure, whatever it may be.
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